Have you ever clung to something, to the point that you find it difficult to restrain from “that thing” that’s attachment, like addiction, we tend to be attached to certain things at some points in our lives, we get attached to someone or something, which is fine as long as you are positively attached to it or them? But what you should be afraid of is when you are attached to someone or something negatively. Well, it depends anyway.

You need to detach from some people, and from some relationships, do you know why getting over a breakup after a relationship is so hard sometimes? I guess one of the reasons is “attachment” Apart from wanting closure, brokenness, and the rest of it all, one thing that you may not have realised is how attached you are to that person, and now you are finding it difficult to move on, it happens even in friendships.

Depending on and relying on someone to define your worth and value, and your lovability. What you are doing and you don’t know is that you are making yourself into a particularly weak form that when these people go you fall and break into fragile pieces of depression and trauma, you start to evolve shadows of your self and you get your self stuck like in a bus stop.

Your insecurity and low self-esteem will make you run after people who don’t want to be with you, will make you want to tie certain people to yourself, make you want to be in control while you are gradually losing your strength, the attachment will make you want to keep people who don’t want to stay. Forgetting that the person you are attached to is human, different, and changes with time, may want different things far from what you want.

Now it’s time to detach, it is hard to say goodbye, hard to see them leave, cause you have been clung to them. You have to accept this new reality, you have to allow them to be who they are and be who you are, accept uncertainty, and don’t try to stop them, Solutions will certainly emerge, Embrace detachment, detachment does not make you less of yourself, it takes away what and who is not meant to be in your life and will attract the right ones to you, no matter how broken you are, take time to heal.