People are always going to think what they want to think about you, but what you think about yourself is what matters and it is what will change everything. I remember those days when I felt I never had a mind of my own, or maybe I listened to so many voices that I lost my voice. Whether true or false I believed. I want you to take some minutes right now to answer some questions, who do you think you are? What can you say about yourself? Now the answers you gave those questions, are they from you, or what someone told you and you believed?

We tend to give more relevance to what people say to us or about us and pay little or no attention to ourselves. I observed that people say a lot of things to us with no precaution on it’s harm and most time, they don’t remember saying those harsh, mean, discouraging words, even though, some are deliberate. But the thing is that our brains have a long time memory that makes it hard to forget the negative said to us and said about us.

Eartha Mea Kitt’s famous quote says “ Life is not problematical, we make it problematical because we are all listening to someone else, to something, without listening to ourselves”. Every day we hear a bunch of things, and some are not so good for us, on social media, in the street, in our neighborhood, in school, in the market, etc. Mind you there are the good ones whereas the bad as well. The problem is not about listening, but listening to the right things, while you live your everyday life.

Do not let what people say to you get to you, you should determine what to take seriously from what people say to you. Years ago I was a little girl who had no mind of hers, but today I have decided that things must be different, choosing who to listen to, God has to come first, myself and others who are off to see me grow and become better, so I have started to learn how to filter those voices, separating the useful and the ones I need to discard, and it is easy, all I do is ask myself, do I need this? What is the purpose of this? And how can it impact me positively?

Silent the negative voices, with your power of choice, start listening more to yourself, and start speaking life, truth, and love to yourself, speak kindly to yourself, and a lot will change about you and you will start becoming better. If you start doing it, you won’t worry about how the lecturer spoke to you harshly in class, the gossip behind your back, the people who said you are never good enough, and the person who cussed you in the market. Listen to the right voices.