Confidence is self justifying, in that it makes you better, making you "worthy" of it based on its effects alone. Your best memories of yourself and life are always those where you stop justifying yourself. Confidence is only feared because you don't think you're worthy of feeling good in the now. You may be worried it may bother or annoy somebody. When you let confidence to do what it does, when you allow yourself to feel happy rather than walking on eggshells, you ultimately come to a point of balance in the long run. Asserting yourself forces others to accept you, or for you to tune your happy self correctly. When confidence is lost it becomes a mind game with yourself to get it back, to avoid further trauma, probably.

We dually enforce anxiety and progression. At our worst we require near certainty to allow ourselves to move forward. But when we point out the future us, and how just allowing ourselves to be us justifies our unimpeded existence, as evident in this future us(which perhaps requires a certain level of self compassion), we avoid the need for a memory or action in the present to justify our belief in ourselves. Does this beat the mind game? Or is it only in letting go of incessant proof, through raw self compassion that gives us sustained confidence? Or perhaps, the final stage(if there could ever be such a thing) of confidence development is where we are at the end of a cycle that goes like: confidence - > mistake - > anxiety - > process - > confidence, where we either run out of things to tweak or potential mistakes to anticipate, or accept we will make mistakes, that sustained confidence arrives?

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