This is how a simp is defined. men who are seen as too attentive and submissive to women, especially out of a failed hope of winning some entitled sexual attention or activity from them. Please stick with me a little bit. One of the things I don't want to see or try to avoid is simping, and yes it can be hard to put those emotions in check when you are feeling something. Now from personal research “ after learning the hard way” don't please. Yeah you like the lady so what. You don't need to be on her DM constantly, checking up on her. Immediately you see yourself committing more to the relationship than she's willing dude you're simping. 

Let me start with a personal story. The year 2020 during the lockdown, well it wasn't so serious in Nigeria which let me move around.  Basically it was more like a long vacation with no school for some months. That was when I met this damsel or whatever. And instead of me keeping a check on myself show less interest and all.  I went ahead saying all those dumb things. I won't say any well yeah sure you get it. 

And as expected she didn't reciprocate the feeling. I had to tell myself never again. And that led me to the dark side, one I actually love and crave, in fact I'm at that point I feel like if I tell you things like I like you or sound romantic in a chat best believe “ na cruise mostly whining  ''.  

 Personal take,always show you have options. And one of things I use to console myself and build this don't give a f**k attitude toward relationships with ladies is the fact that I do believe there's so much fish in the sea.  So why are you crazy about one? 

Why do you behave like someone without options, though to be sincere at that point of my simping I had few options. Now I have a catalog of ladies I talk to have their numbers. And finding it easy to detach from this is one of the things I didn't do before since I had few numbers, talked to few and all. 

Mostly because I was very shy to approach a lady. 

When I started to talk to lady's get numbers, let me put it this way. I developed  this whole they are not so much of a priority at all mindset.

Let me be very respectful to my female friends and say. They are good companies, in fact some are great companies.  Though never be a simp,  let them come to you sometimes and never be scared to let any go. 

As someone said “ as guy why you dey post love for status make money” why are you disturbing yourself with a lady build yourself and watch them come to you. Take away from the bible story of Adam and eve. Adam was busy doing his work then God gave him the woman. So where did we learn this culture of simping, when we should be building ourselves. 

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