We've had ladies ask this question in relationships.
What do you want from me, my personality or my vagina?
Thing is, have we been able to get an answer?
Whilst we insist that a choice be made, I hope we are aware that the two walk hand in hand for most men.
Whereas there are cases where a lady is being chased for sex, a man will not go after you for your personality or person without first being physically and/or sexually attracted to you.