From the outside, people see a Nollywood actress, but behind the scenes, I am a woman who has lived, loved, and learned. I have been honest about my journey, and I refuse to let society dictate what happiness should look like for me. That’s why I speak out about marriage,not to tear it down, but to defend my right to choose what’s best for me. I know what I’ve seen, and I know what I’ve lived. Marriage, as it’s often presented, is overrated, and I will not apologize for saying so.

I have watched countless couples thrive in long, loving relationships, only to see everything unravel after they say “I do.” I’ve seen people date for 15, even 17 years, living in harmony, only to break up within two or three years of marriage. It’s a pattern that can’t be ignored. Why should we pretend that marriage is the magic ingredient, when sometimes it’s the very thing that brings unnecessary pressure and expectations? I refuse to ignore the truth just to fit in.

My own marriage to Olakunle ‘Abounce’ Fawole was brief, but it gave me a beautiful son and taught me invaluable lessons. I am not bitter, and I am not closed off to love. But I will not chase marriage as if it’s the only way to be fulfilled. I am choosing authenticity and happiness over empty tradition. If marriage comes my way again, I’ll consider it, but I will never make it my life’s goal or let it define my worth.

I have learned that after marriage, people often become more rigid, more intolerant, more focused on their rights than on their relationship. I’ve seen it happen over and over: the wife claims her rights, the husband does the same, and suddenly, what was once love becomes a battleground. I will not walk blindly into that trap. I value my independence and my peace of mind too much to sacrifice them for the sake of appearances.

I urge others to do the same. Don’t let anyone pressure you into a mold that doesn’t fit. Do what makes you happy. If you find someone you love, cherish that connection in whatever way works for you. Don’t let tradition or society’s expectations rob you of your joy. I am living proof that you can be whole, happy, and fulfilled on your own terms.

My story is not just mine,it’s the story of many who are tired of being told that marriage is the only path to happiness. I am proud to stand up and say that fulfillment comes in many forms. I will always defend my right to choose my own path, and I hope my honesty inspires others to do the same. This is my truth, and I will never apologize for living it.