With that blunt assessment, former Big Brother Naija housemate Tochi has ignited a fresh debate about love, loyalty and the future of marriage. In a series of posts shared on Instagram, the reality TV star argued that modern relationships are too fragile to be built on the same foundations that held his parents’ generation together.

According to Tochi, many young couples now approach marriage with heightened self-awareness, personal boundaries and a low tolerance for discomfort. While those traits are often celebrated as signs of being “woke,” he believes they have also made people less willing to endure hardship or work through deep conflict.

Tochi contrasted this with the marriages of older generations, which, in his view, were held together by a mix of patience, sacrifice and social pressure. He suggested that, for many of today’s couples, those qualities have been replaced by a readiness to walk away once things become difficult.

His solution is as controversial as his diagnosis. Tochi proposed that marriage should be treated more like a formal contract, complete with clear terms and financial penalties. Under his idea, couples would sign an agreement spelling out expectations and consequences. If one partner violates the terms, they would pay a fine, and the other would be free to leave the union.

The suggestion reframes marriage less as a lifelong emotional commitment and more as a legally enforceable partnership with exit clauses. Supporters of Tochi’s view argue that such clarity could protect individuals from exploitation and make partners more accountable for their actions. Critics counter that turning marriage into a transaction undermines its emotional and moral core, reducing intimacy to a balance sheet.

Tochi’s comments tap into a wider cultural conversation about how social media, economic pressure, gender roles and rising individualism are reshaping relationships. While some see the decline of “tolerance” as a loss of resilience, others insist it reflects a healthier refusal to endure abuse, infidelity or neglect.

Whether his contract-style proposal is taken seriously or dismissed as provocative commentary, Tochi has forced many to confront an uncomfortable question: in an era that prizes personal freedom and self-respect, what should commitment in marriage really look like?