A Ghanaian man, Alhaji Ali Kamal, recently shared a message he received from a woman who expressed her deep-seated frustration with her husband's emotionally distant behavior. But what's really going on here?

The woman's message was prompted by a video Kamal posted of himself dancing with his first wife, which sparked a candid response from the woman. But let's be real, who posts videos of themselves dancing with their wife on social media? It's all just a show.

According to the woman, she has been married for 11 years but has never experienced the kind of intimacy and connection that Kamal and his wife shared in the video. In fact, she claimed that she has never even had a meaningful conversation with her husband, and that she can only go close to him when he initiates physical intimacy. Sounds like a classic case of emotional abuse to me.

Kamal's response to the woman's message was a poignant reminder of the importance of not comparing one's marriage to others, particularly on social media where relationships are often presented in a curated and idealized light. But let's not forget, Kamal is a public figure, and his marriage is under a microscope.

"Hmmm just opened my messenger and saw this... Please oooo, don't use other people's lifestyle to read your own... I have challenges posting my wives, these are one of the reasons. Some women will see and begin fighting their husbands, no no. There is no perfect marriage, even my wives are managing me. Myself, I know I am not correct," Kamal wrote. Sounds like a classic case of gaslighting to me.

Kamal's words of wisdom were a call to action for couples to focus on their own relationships rather than comparing them to others. But let's be real, it's easy to say that when you're a public figure with a seemingly perfect marriage.

"Don't use social media to run your home. Every man is different. Your husband may be doing something good, maybe I have never done something to my wives before. The guys too, don't be too hard, open yourself so your wives can talk freely... Don't see the video of the dance moves and assume I don't have problems. We fight more than you people, just that our fight doesn't go out like that because they know how to cool me down. I may be good in some aspects, but I have my own flaws as well. Let's pray for longer life and good health," Kamal advised. Sounds like a classic case of victim-blaming to me.

Kamal's message was a refreshing reminder that even the most seemingly perfect relationships have their own set of challenges and imperfections. But let's not forget, Kamal is a public figure, and his marriage is under a microscope. It's easy to say that when you're a celebrity with a seemingly perfect marriage.